Friday, October 21, 2011

This is what love looks like.

I knew a man for over three years and walked away.
I knew a man for under three weeks and walked away.
It may sound like I'm a heartbreaker, but that's not the case.
I'm thinking about my own heart.
Is it getting what it wants? What it needs?
When the answer is 'no' then something needs to be done.
I used to be afraid of changes, but now I make them.
Are there changes you need to make?
Is there something you need to walk away from?
What is hindering you from living your loudest life?

The best love I've ever known has come from women.
My mother. My sister. My best friends.
It is strong. It is unconditional.
It is forgiving and patient and true.
When I meet a man who can match this standard of love,
I will then settle down.
But until then, I won't settle.
I know what I want and what I need.
I won't waste my time if I'm not satisfied.

Love does not add to life's stresses.
Instead, it comforts them.
Love does not create doubt.
Instead, it answers questions.
True love is not complicated.
It is not frustrating and it does not hurt.

I know this because I've seen it.
When I see it again, I'll know...


  1. I agree so much! I'm always telling people that LOVE isn't work. Relationships and life might be work, but the LOVE should feel awesome and wonderful and easy.

  2. Puppy love is one of the truest forms of love. Maybe you should try a little four-legged love. :)

  3. I actually disagree.... I think sometimes Love is work. Love is a decision. You aren't always going to feel it. Sometimes you are going to want to throttle the other person. BUT at the end of the day that person is the one you want to go into battle for.
    HOWEVER, if it is work in the beginning, I am a firm believer in "s/he's just not that into you." That is supposed to be the easy time.
    AND if you have been together for awhile and the person doesn't want to do the work, well then that is a sign as well.

    ALL THAT TO SAY----- give it time Steph, when the situation is right, well it is right.

  4. beautiful and uplifting. it is so amazing how cathartic poetry can be. i can tell you learned a lot in writing this and getting it out. sometimes that is the best thing to do.

  5. Steph, you are a shining example of a strong woman.

    I completely agree w/ finding a person who appreciates you just like your friends do and more. Don't ever are waaay too good for that.

  6. All I can say right now is thank you. Love you.

  7. beautiful, stef! i love you dearly. you deserve unconditional love, but unfortunately i don't know if you'll ever find someone to love you as much as mom and i do. ;)

  8. I love the last part! all so true. such beautiful words! I promise, you will find the man for you! I never thought they really existed until I met mine.:) You're so encouraging!

  9. I might have to print this out and put it on my inspiration wall. Wonderful words you speak the truth!


  10. I agree with Alexis. Love fluctuates. That's reality. And relationships are work. And more work. Especially with men because they don't think the way women do.

    On the other hand things do have to be fabulous at the beginning! If they're not then you should keep looking.

  11. I adore you, and you are very right about love. Here's to finding that love someday and never settling.


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