Sometimes I write about lessons I've learned the hard way. Click for my take on keeping the glass half full, living the dream, detours and deadlines, why I blog and what it means to live loudly.
One of the greatest compliments I've ever been given was when someone called me the most positive person she knew. This was flattering because I'd worked hard to get to that point in my emotional health, just as someone works hard to maintain good physical health.
Overall, I'm a happy person and I love my life, but I still have days when I feel like everything sucks and I throw myself a pity party minus the balloons. In fact, I'm having one right now. As I type this, I'm eating a microwave meal on my bed in my messy room.
What I'm thinking is... I wish I had the time and energy to cook. Or the money to go get myself a nice dinner at The Cheesecake Factory. Or a personal chef to cook for me. Or a boy to cook for me. Or a boy to cuddle with me right now because it's freezing in here. Or a heater. Or the money for a heater. And with that money I would actually pay someone to clean my room because I can't even see the floor.
What I should be thinking is... It's so nice to sit here and relax after a long day at work. I deserve this! I'm grateful to have food in my belly and a comfy bed to sleep in and so many clothes that they spill from the closet to the floor. I love having my own place and being independent and self-supporting. I adore the smell of candles, the warmth of my PJs and the excitement of working on a new blog post.
Guess what? I'm already feeling better, just from writing that. Simply changing your mindset, your attitude, the way you think about things... it'll change your mood and in turn, your life. My boss at work said 'if you keep telling yourself that everything is easy, it will get easier.' I think she was referring to selling, but I believe that can be applied to life in general! It's a simple but powerful philosophy.
There's a quote that I love that says 'grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.' It's a Christian prayer and it's said at every Alcoholics Anonymous meeting, but whether or not you're religious or a recovering alcoholic doesn't matter... I think we could all learn from it. The biggest thing you can change is your attitude, and if you have to -- fake it 'til you make it. Keep talking to yourself in a positive way and eventually you'll believe what you say. In the moment, it's easier for us to be negative. But in the long run, being positive makes life easier! The hard work will pay off -- trust me.