Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Look + Lessons :: Let Yourself Be

Outfit details: Cover-up, sandals - Target. Swim top - JCrew. Bottoms - Don't remember. Hairband - Yak & Yeti (gift from my mom). Sunnies - Marc Jacobs (lost and found at my old work). Necklace - Modcloth.

I'm so glad that women came forward about their own pasts and problems after reading my last post! I don't ever want a woman to feel guilty for her emotions, and that is a big reason why I force myself to be vulnerable here. I've had men call me crazy for raising my voice in anger, and stupid for crying out of sadness. (These same men would punch holes in walls and throw inanimate objects, but let's move on.)

Please, ladies, don't believe these lies. You are not crazy, you are not stupid, and you certainly should not feel guilty for being something other than happy. This is a battle I'm still tackling today. Last week I was telling a friend, "I feel lonely, and then I feel guilty for feeling lonely. That's double the negativity!" Why not just let ourselves feel? There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In fact, I daresay it's quite the opposite. I don't believe it's healthy to ignore our emotions, deny them, keep them inside. There are times, though, when we don't have a choice -- like in public, especially at work.

That's my problem lately. I've been so busy that I've barely had a moment to sit in silence and face how I feel. That's why I'm so glad I had the chance to leave town. Not only do I get to see my family, but I get to see myself. Words can't describe how inspiring and refreshing this week has been. Maybe you need this, too. Break the normal pattern, the busy schedule of your life, and take a breather. Get away. If you don't have the time or money for anything big, go somewhere for a night! Clear your head. Grab a book and a journal and go.

Another thing I've found about myself during this time of self-reflection is that I'm constantly searching for a balance with this blog. Aren't we all? I think we struggle with wanting to have unique traits and different ideas while, at the same time, having popular traits and relevant ideas. We want to stand out, but we want to be what readers like! Well, here's the thing: I'm a writer first and a blogger second. That's how it'll always be, and I've decided to embrace that. So if this blog becomes a novel, I'm sorry -- but not really. It's time to be true to myself, unashamedly, in every way. Your turn.


  1. Love that you are unashamed! Love even more that you are wearing accessories at the beach--- tres chic! ;)

  2. ah your writing is so passionate girl. i feel you! and heeeeyo it looks like your in fla but i forget if you are! :)

    Steffys Pros and Cons

  3. First of all, you are drop dead gorgeous! Love these photos :)
    & second, this post got me all teary-eyed! I was having such a crappy day, you have no idea how much I needed a post like this.
    I was upset over something stupid earlier and my mister just thought I was being ridiculous and silly for crying. I'm not ridiculous, some people just suck, and it's not my fault if that makes me cry :-P

    xo Heather

  4. I think it's great that you are finally ready to make your blog be your blog. It should always reflect you--the you in the now!

    And the other day I was feeling very annoyed, but I wasn't able to get on a plane and go, so I just took a walk and went to a playground and went swinging for a while. It really helped.

    By the way, love the sandals and the sunnies. And I live in the Bay Area.

  5. You are absolutely right-- not just in what you said, but in what you did. We all have the right to feel, of course, but it is all for not if we fail to act. Feeling sad or bad or whatever is good as long as it motivates a change and is not used as an excuse to wallow or engage in self pity-- congratulations for not only writing about how you feel, but also for doing something about it...and inspiring others in the process!

  6. Definitely always looking for balance though I find it nearly impossible to achieve! Fun photos... adore that bandana, and truth: your cleavage! :)

  7. I somehow agree with your post. I like the breaking of the normal routine, we all need that. by the way, I love your swimsuit cover up! love the sleeves!


  8. First of all - great photos!!!
    I'm sorry you're facing so much stress right now. I seem to remember feeling the same way in my 20's. There's so much to do, so many decisions to make and so much emotional turmoil at that age. Hang in there!

  9. love beaches!! looks like u had a blast :)


  10. yes, i love your writing!
    doing what you want and love is the most important thing :)
    xo, cheyenne

  11. ALL of you, and your writing stands out on this blog....good or bad thoughts, Im in it with you for the long haul.....:) I love you girl!

  12. Honestly, this is one of my favorite posts of yours that I've ever read. You are such a beautiful person inside and out, with such a strong voice starting to emerge. I love that you are a writer and wish that more bloggers were. Most of all, I love that line about being able to see yourself when you took time off. Isn't that the truth, we get so caught up in work that we forget what we "look like" in so many ways. You made me remember to think about this when I break away next week for a little work/fun travel!

    xo Mary Jo

  13. You are so brave for putting yourself out there, emotionally especially! You also seem really insightful and your thoughts & comments are really appreciated.

  14. That's how I am too ( writer first blogger second) and honestly sometimes I feel bad because I just enjoy writing so much! So when I blog I find myself worrying. Am I saying too much in too much words? Is this too pretty? Too thought out? Lol it sound so funny now that I write it out! Ah well, ditching that attitude in progress!


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