Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Life :: Mind Your Damn Business!
Fun fact: "Women gossip for one-third of waking life." Here's a few more: "Discussing other people's problems, who's dating who and other people's children form the basis of most chats. Other topics most regularly include sex, shopping and soaps." (Apparently, people besides my grandma watch those.) "Whether they are at home or at work, females natter for around 298 minutes daily. An average woman spends five hours a day gossiping."
First off, I don't think most of that is true. Who really has that amount of time in their day to talk about other people? I barely get a chance to talk to my boyfriend. Secondly, I truly don't care what people say about me. There's a common saying that's along the lines of stabbing someone in the front rather than the back, but I honestly beg to differ. I'd rather not hear it, because it's annoying. I don't need to hear how someone else thinks I should live my life and what they believe I'm doing wrong.
I've linked to other bloggers before who have expressed that they receive a lot of judgement about choosing to have kids, choosing to not have kids, etc. People really have no shame. They'll ask anything and have no problem belittling someone due to their lifestyle. It's really sad.
Don't get me wrong, there are also really amazing, accepting, non-judgmental women out there. I'm not saying that everyone is a nosy bitch. Since arriving in Michigan, I have been surrounded by warmth and encouragement and love. That's all I need.
I don't need criticism and negativity and unsolicited advice. Unfortunately, since becoming pregnant, those are things I've also received -- from strangers, from friends, from people who have their own kids or don't. I've heard that it only gets worse once the baby comes, because whether on-line or off-line, other women will tell you how to raise your child. But it's my pregnancy, my body, my baby.
When will the world accept that we're all different, and all of our situations are different, and that's okay? When will we stop pushing our opinions and beliefs on other people? It is one thing to share stories and experiences; it is quite another to assume that the person you're sharing with will have exactly the same ones. I try to ignore it, I really do. But sometimes, I just need to get loud.
I hope that someday we can all be more accepting, but until then, I'll be focusing on the people that treat me right. You know who you are. Thank you.
*Photo + facts found here.