Thursday, June 18, 2015
Loud Lady :: How Danielle Lived Loudly!
The first step in feeling like you can create and manage more in your life is to measure your success based on how much fun you’re having.
This is a mantra and philosophy I have on repeat right now. I notice that when I am better able to stop focusing on how much I have accomplished, who I have pleased or how much I have gotten done today and shift my intention and focus to how much fun I’m having that’s when my life begins to thrive. This is when invisible doors open and circumstances begin to happen on my behalf and amazing things begin to occur in my life. I understand to my very core, as a ‘Type A,’ high achieving, anxiety prone woman, that sometimes fun can be an afterthought. We can often find ourselves feeling stuck, stressed out and completely bogged down by all we have to do and all we think we need to accomplish. Yet, I’m learning that—not focusing on fun gives stress the power to dismantle us. It will block us and cut us off from our capacity to create all that we want to manifest in the world. It will slow us down and make us sick.
Let’s practice being kinder and gentler with ourselves and with others. Because when we are kinder and gentler with ourselves and those around us we contribute to the establishment of a more compassionate world. And that’s just good for everyone.
I understand it’s an emotional tightrope. I think for an ambitious person who cares about their career and wants to create successful relationships and circumstances–it’s natural to try really hard and want to be the best at having it all. Striving is fine as long as it is tempered by the realization that in an ever shifting universe the final outcome is out of your control. If the final outcome is ultimately out of our control wouldn’t it make sense to not waste our energy on variables we can not influence and focus instead on those that we can? I deeply believe the whole shebang would be immensely more exciting and enjoyable if we collectively strived to make fun a barometer of our success.
Dr. Danielle Dowling is a life coach + psychologist. Her book ‘Soul Sessions: A 5-Week Guide To Crafting Greater Joy + Making Big Things Happen In Life’ launched late last year and she’d love it if you downloaded a free, 12-page sample here. Her goal is to motivate women to live inspiring lives; experience a life better lived and achieve their dreams whatever they may be. Join us and other fierce females for 30 Days to Bolder Blogging, a month-long community challenge featuring daily homework + weekly videos!